How You Can Deal with Your Anger
Adapted from “Anger Management” by Andrew Wommack
It’s not what others do to you that makes you angry. You’ll never be able to remove all the aggravating things and people from your path. That’s unrealistic. Satan has more than enough people under his control to keep an endless parade of annoying people coming across your path.
You don’t have the authority to change others. But you can change what’s on the inside of you that makes you angry. Our anger comes from the inside, not the outside.
It’s comforting to think that others' actions made you angry, but that’s not true. If the actions of others makes you angry, then you’ll always be angry because there will always be someone that treats you wrong.
That makes you a victim and not a victor.
Accepting responsibility for ungodly anger puts you in the driver’s seat. You have total authority over yourself. You are the only one you can really change. If you deal with the things inside you that cause your anger, you will never lose, regardless of what others do.
Jesus was able to look at the very ones who crucified Him and say, “Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do,” (Luke 23:34).
Jesus suffered more unjustly than any of us ever have. Yet He humbled Himself and even forgave His enemies. And Jesus wasn’t the only one who forgave those who wronged him. As Stephen was being stoned to death, he knelt down and cried with a loud voice, “Lord, lay not this sin to their charge…,” (Acts 7:60).
Not only are we supposed to resist anger, we are commanded to forgive those who trespass against us. We can’t control others, but we can control what’s inside us that makes us angry.
The key is found in Proverbs 13:10, “Only by pride cometh contention.”
This verse doesn’t say that pride is one of the major reasons for anger—it’s the only reason. What a statement!
It’s not what others do, it’s the pride inside us that makes us angry.
Many people think of pride only as arrogance. But that’s just one manifestation of pride. Timidity and shyness are extreme manifestations of pride. At its core, pride is simply self-centeredness or selfishness.
Timid people are extremely self-centered. I know because I was an introvert. I couldn’t look people in the face and talk to them. I was always thinking, “What are they going to think of me? Am I going to make a mistake and look foolish?” That self-centeredness made me shy.
If you are timid about sharing your testimony, you have pride issues. Pride is the source of all our anger. As we deal with our own self-love, anger toward others will be defused.
And as we die to ourselves, we’ll be able to love others the way Jesus did.