Why Can’t I Love Others Like Jesus Loves Me?

02/24/21 at 06:00 AM | Published Under Charis Staff

Adapted from “As I Have Loved You” by Andrew Wommack

Imagine the night before Jesus’ crucifixion.

He has communion with His disciples and washes their feet. He reveals that Judas will betray Him. He tells the disciples He’s leaving and they can’t come. Then, He says:

“A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.” —John 13:34-35

Jesus’ final words to the disciples had to be important. And notice it was a command, not a suggestion.

In reality, most people don’t think this is something they can actually do. It’s a goal they may strive to reach with gritted teeth, but usually with little success.

It begs the question—would Jesus give His disciples a command He knew they couldn’t keep? 

Obviously, no. So why is it so hard for us to love other people? We can’t give what we don’t have.

The majority of churches are misrepresenting God’s love. It’s one of the main reasons we are so judgmental and harsh toward other people. Consciously or not, we tend to treat people the way we believe God is treating us.

God does not love us because we’re lovely. He doesn’t love us because we read the Bible, go to church, pay our tithes, or do our best to keep the command to love others as He loved us. He loves us without conditions. That’s huge!

The purpose of all creation was to give God pleasure (Rev. 4:11). And that’s still God’s purpose. Adam and Eve were created for fellowship with God. He wanted someone to love and for them to voluntarily love Him back.

God’s purpose for creating human beings was all about relationship. But religion has succeeded at turning us from “human beings” into “human doings.” 

We’ve come to believe God loves us based on our performance. Therefore, we hold others to the same standard—we love them directly proportional to how they treat us. But God looks upon the heart, not the external.

God’s love has never been nor ever will be conditional. He loved you at your worst. 

As long as you believe God judges us by performance, you’ll never fully receive His love. There’s nothing you can do to earn it or deserve it, so just receive it as a free gift!

When you understand how much God loves you, it becomes easy to love others, and your behavior will change toward them. 

Love will flow out of you like rivers of living water!


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