Marriage as God Intended
Adapted from “God’s Kind of Love in Marriage” by Andrew Wommack
Genesis 2:18 says, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet [or sufficient] for him.” A perfect man who had none of the pressures or problems that we know of today still was not complete without a mate.
It was God who initiated the whole thing because that was His perfect plan. This all emphasizes the high priority that marriage should have in our lives.
Most couples have no idea what God intended marriage to be, so they settle for the same substandard relations they see others experiencing. After all, everybody is having trouble with their marriages today.
Well, I am pleased to announce that not everybody is having trouble with their marriages today! Christians can have God’s best in their homes. The only reason two out of three marriages in America end up in divorce is because people don’t follow the instructions God gave concerning marriage.
What does God say about marriage? From Ephesians 5:22-33, we get quite a bit of instruction. One principle that is interwoven throughout these scriptures is God’s kind of love. God’s institution of marriage will only work with God’s kind of love.
Many are still operating toward each other with the same carnal love they had before they were Christians. They have started trying to apply God’s love to their brothers and sisters in the body, but are virtually the same in their relationships with their mates.
Carnal love is completely motivated by the emotions or senses, but God’s love comes from the heart, and although the feelings are definitely affected, they don’t motivate or deter God’s love.
God’s love is the same yesterday, today, and forever. That is the way God is (Heb. 13:8) and God is love (1 John 4:8).
Many people think, I can’t act like I love them when I don’t feel it. Oh, yes you can! God didn’t say to do it if you felt like it. You can teach yourself to love with God’s kind of love.
Now that we are in Christ, we have His promise that our spirits have been totally changed (2 Cor. 5:17) and have become like Him. We have God’s love in our new man. It is not hypocritical to act in love when you don’t feel it. It is actually hypocritical to act on what you feel instead of who you really are in Christ Jesus.
God’s kind of love is a choice that you make on the basis of what God said, and then act on it in faith until it becomes a reality in your spirit, soul, and body.
If you can receive this basic truth about God’s love, then you can begin to be consistent in your love to your mate because your love is based on a choice that you have made, not on the way they act.